There’s a price for everything

Dear D and H,

There’s a price for everything, and that cost is always related to time. Time is the only thing that no one can get more of and everything that is worth pursuing takes time.

When you’re young, you have a lot of time. And time is really “cheap”. You don’t really have anything you have responsibilities to tend to except maybe work. You have the energy to stay up all night. There’s even a saying – ‘Time is wasted on the youth’. Don’t waste the time! This is really the best time to focus on what your passion and purpose is and to spend that time working on it.

As you get older, your time becomes more expensive and spending that time becomes harder. Your biological clock is ticking. Your job pays you more money to stay focused. Your gf/wife/kids want to see you more. Your parents are older and need more help. If you’re well known, people want to interview you, talk to you, have coffee with you. Everyone is trying to take some time away from you and it’s harder to guard your time.

So my advice to you kiddos, is to guard your time and use it wisely when you’re young. Have fun, but find a purpose that you love that you happily spend your time on when you’re young, because when you’re older, that time is much more expensive.

Love,

Dad

Dear D and H,

Hopefully when you guys are older, you’ll read these letters to you and you’ll gleam some insight into why I may or may not have done certain things for/to you. Why was daddy so strict? Why did he want me to learn Chinese? Taekwondo, brazillian jiujitsu, again? Why no TV, why no iPad? Why did he say “practice, practice, practice” all the time?

Parenting has been one of the toughest challenges in my life. Read some psychology books and pretty much everyone says your experiences in childhood are the foundation to how you act as an adult. That’s a huge burden for a parent! It’s extremely scary! I was just trying not to mess you guys up!

I know that I saw Ye-ye as infallible when I was younger, but as I grew older, I realized he was just human. I didn’t get the chance to really understand the way he approached life and why he did certain things, so I hope that these blog posts will give you some insight into the what I was thinking at certain ages in your life (and mine!).

One day you’ll realize that yup, Daddy is human and I really didn’t know what the hell I was doing – that I was just learning about life just like you, and making it up as I went along!

You guys really are my inspiration for everything I do.

Love,
Daddy